When I was pregnant with Amaya we chose to not to find out the sex of the baby, which even though, exciting....partly terrified me. There was a million questions to be answered either way, but the one thing I feared most was having to deal with a daughter and her inevitable curly mane that I would have to tame.
It was pretty much a given that any child of ours would have curly hair, considering I have naturally curly hair myself and her father has the waves and curls concurrent to African American hair. So when the day came and they proudly announced that I was the mama of a beautiful baby girl, one of the first thoughts I had was 'Oh shit...'
I could barely make my own hair and curls look presentable, so how was I ever going to send her out into the world not looking a hot mess?
Not until my high school years did I ever have to worry about my hair. My mom unfortunately did not know how to tame my mane of frizzy curls as a child so she took my sister and I to the salon and got it all chopped off. Yep, you read that right. She will never live it down as long as she lives, the mushroom top she gave this child and the ensuing harassment and bullying by other kids. One look that does not flatter a curly haired child in the depths of adolescents is a bowl cut with bangs. FUCKING BANGS! I was in all forms of the word...riding the hot mess express with that hair do and the four eye jokes that wrote themselves for a kid with glasses as well.
So obviously from that moment on, I promised myself and my hypothetical children that I would never make them endure the cruel punishment that I lived in my short curly haired prison.
Fast forward a gang of years later to present day with a very sassy and opinionated three year old....
You see for the last three years I have been lucky and Amaya has let me do as I please to her hair. A little bow here, a big headband there...all was good in my world with a easy peasy babe whose hair was just growing in. Sadly for me, that has all changed very quickly....and little miss diva has an opinion on everything, especially when it comes to her hair.
'NOOOOO MOMMY! I WEAR MY HAIR DOWN! I WANT MY HAIR WIKE EMMA!!'
Mind you, Emma is her daycare bestie who is a petite little girl with wispy straight blonde hair and who will never know the struggle Amaya goes through with hair brushing. In reality, we don't even brush Amaya's hair. Any brush that we have tried thus far has been a disaster. Right now we use our pick and I'll go through her hair as well with my fingers. Unlike many bath times, we can not wash, condition, comb and call it a day.
Bath times are everyday but we reserve hair washing days for twice a week. I plan on sharing our whole routine in a future post, if anyone will be interested. Right now though, we're working our way through a bevy of products trying to find out what works best for Amaya's hair and texture.
So far, this has produced the best results and has added shine and has contained alot of her frizz...
With Amaya having such sensitive and dry skin, it was important for me to find something that contained as much natural ingredients as possible, and this right here, fit the bill perfectly.
As her hair grows and becomes even more wild, I'm sure we will find ourselves in a sea of even more hair care products but I'm glad we're finally making our way through this tame the mane terrain. This is all new to me, so I YouTube and Google many of my resources, but I'm always looking for any helpful tips elsewhere. I'm grateful that I also have a good group of girlfriends in the IG community who I can bounce ideas and exchange info with concerning our biracial babes and their tresses.
To the moms raising biracial babes out there, what have been your go to products and styling tips whilet wrangling your toddler and their more than lijely, kinky curls?
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